Good, guiding questions for husbands and dads can help to evaluate where things are at personally, in our marriages and our parenting. Don’t be intimidated by these questions – allow them to motivated you to grow.
Personally…
• Am I in the Word daily, studying a passage of Scripture, mining it for the wealth that it is?
• Am I daily praying through a list comprised of the people and the needs the Lord has placed around me?
• Am I in an accountable relationship, where vulnerability is open and welcome?
Maritally….
• Am I having regular conversations with my wife about her time in the Word?
• Am I learning how my wife best receives love and growing in how I approach that?
• Am I looking for ways to serve my wife with her current weights?
Parentally…
• Am I having regular dialogue with my kids about what they’re learning in the Word?
• Am I prioritizing church and youth group over sports and activities? (Read more about that here)
• Am I setting an example for them in how I serve in the church, encouraging them to do likewise?
See any areas that need growth? You could resort to self-pity over those (“I’ll never be the dad/husband I want to be.”) or you could make some, incremental progress. But inactivity and complacency won’t work. That won’t help you fulfill God’s will for your role in the home.
Need help? Get some help! Likely there are many people you know that would be willing to help you in these areas. Ask a trusted friend to hold you accountable to a few of the items mentioned above. Set a regular time to go out for breakfast and ask each other if you’re growing in these areas. Plan on excelling in your spiritual leadership in these areas instead of the same old habits year after year.
What other good, guiding questions for husbands and dads can you think of? List them in the comments below.